"Three of Hearts: A Postmodern Family" documents eight years in the relationship between Sam, Steve, and Samantha, three people with very strong personalities, deep love for one another, and little or no precedence for their romantic arrangement. This timely film comes during a period of divide about gay marriage, ever escalating divorce rates, and a bit of media attention on the common law marriages of our favorite celebrities. Interestingly, only the second subject is touched on here.It's a heartbreaking story about three people in search of love in the modern world. Their "tri-nogomous" relationship, as one person phrased it, is thankfully never exploited or shown as anything but far more challenging than the love between two. They are regular people who are at times quite boring, at times charming, and in the final act rather bitter.The film leaves an ache in your heart, because everything about the first two-thirds of the film felt hopeful and stable. It's unsettling to feel that a film that could inspire mainstream society to be more open to alternative visions of what means marriage and what means love could also be the reason it remains closed. This documentary is definitely a good springboard for discussion.

This tale of a threesome is quite interesting but leaves out a lot of information viewers will want. The bare facts are these: Steven, a chiropractor, and Sam, a massage therapist, are lovers. They take a younger woman, Samantha, into their apartment and relationship. They all sleep in the same bed. They also run a professional office together, with Samantha doing the grunt work. Maybe not everybody is as prurient as I am, but I think most of the audience remained curious about the actual sexual practices of this trio after the movie was over. Similarly, I was wondering about the details of the "wellness center" business on which they all collaborated; how many patients did they see? who paid how much? how were the profits divided? (As a New Yorker, I also wanted to know how much rent they paid.)It is quite possible that there is a good explanation for many omissions, but I want to know what they are. Would it have been possible to include an interview with Samantha's predecessor in Sam and Steven's relationship? Why not? And if so, why wasn't it done? I enjoyed the movie but was still hungry for information when I left the theater.

Very good documentary. It's about two gay men (Sam Cagnina and Stephen Margolin) who want a woman in their relationship. They finally find Samantha Singh. They all live together and have sex together (not shown). Then Samantha gets pregnant. They're all happy--but the birth of a child sets off some unexpected feelings...and this family might not survive.I saw this at a film festival and, for some technical reason, they could only show it in black & white, not color. That may have affected my rating but I don't think so.This is a totally fascinating movie following a different type of family and how it works and survives. It was shot over the space of 8 years so you see them grow and change--in good and bad ways. Totally absorbing but it is a little too long--it could have been cut by a few minutes. Still it's an excellent documentary and should be seen by all open-minded people interested in a new type of family. Recommended.

Sitting down to review a documentary is a little different from sitting down to review a regular movie. It's easier at times to discuss themes and framing devices and paralleling than it is to discuss a documentary about eight years of a 3-person marriage that's just about people. This one is harder because the documentary's director was a friend of the family. In the Q&A after the movie, she mentioned having known one of the male partners since elementary school, and the other since high school. At times in the documentary, I wanted very much to ask the people involved, "But wait. Didn't that make you incredibly angry/jealous/etc?" Sadly the person that I most wanted to ask about that had to return to New York after Friday's showing. The director really did seem to soft-pedal the relationship, making it seem very much like all was well in their marvelous little world (indeed, she mentioned afterwards, when she discussed getting some more footage after a break of about 2 years, that she went back *after* someone saw what she had put together and said "there's no conflict; they're too happy."). Their families accepted it after a bit, the parents of all three treat their children as grandchildren, etc., etc. At one point, Samantha, the female partner, mentions, "After I told my family about this, my mother didn't speak to me for three months." but that's it, and it comes after evidence that they're talking now. There's nothing about actually *living* the way they do - no one gives an opinion that's anything but positive, for most of the film.The end result is a movie that doesn't have much perspective, until the last fifteen minutes or so, and if it wasn't for said last 15 minutes, there would really be little point to seeing the film. While one of the leads, Sam, is incredibly funny, and they all make some interesting comments about their relationship, the general result for anyone who has spent time in the poly community is 'yeah, but I've thought about that.'All in all, while it was interesting/funny to watch, and intriguing at times, it's not a YOU MUST SEE THIS movie event. It's just a quiet little film with some interesting people. It will be of slightly more interest to those who have little contact with the poly world, to see just how the trio deal with a number of things that people often assume can only be handled in pairs. Poly people will possibly want to see it simply because of the subject matter, but will likely leave it saying, "where is all the actual *life* here?"