XX/XY
XX/XY
R | 11 January 2002 (USA)
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When two college students, Sam and Thea, meet Coles at a party, their mutual attraction is immediate, leading to a passionate and awkward night together, and the onset of an intensely charged bond. As they continue to push the sexual boundaries of their friendship, however, they are tested by Sam and Coles' incipient romance and Thea's increasing recklessness, until the relationship dissolves amid a cloud of fear, resentment and mistrust. Eight years later they reunite. An animator for a high-profile ad agency, Coles now lives with Claire, his girlfriend of five years. Thea is happily married to Miles, with whom she owns a flourishing restaurant. And Sam has just returned to Manhattan after working in London where she recently broke off her engagement. Yet upon reconnecting, the three are drawn back into the complicated dynamic that defined their relationship from the start and are forced to confront the true meaning of commitment and love.

Reviews
Michael O'Keefe

Provocative, romantic and real steamy. After Coles(Mark Ruffalo)spies Sam(Maya Strange)on the bus, he meets her at a college party. Coles wants to know Sam better; but Sam wants her close friend Thea(Kathleen Robertson)to join in a three-way sexual exploration...any and every man's fantasy. Boundaries are pushed, lines are crossed and emotions accelerated. Ten years later, the three meet again and each has to decide what to do about their past actions colliding with their current life styles. Thea is married and with her husband owns a successful restaurant. Coles is a rising star in the animation/advertising world and lives with his girlfriend Claire(Petra Wright)of five years. Then there is Sam returning from working in London with an off and on again boyfriend. When Coles runs into Sam, the two rekindle old fireworks. Thea plans a get together for the three college friends/lovers and their significant other at her home on the beach. Coles decides to tell Claire that he is still in love with Sam. Before things can get ugly; Sam arrives late to the meeting expounding on her quickie marriage to her Brit boyfriend. The once carefree Coles has no real choice but to sink into depression. Ruffalo, Robertson and Strange are excellent in their minefield threesome. I just couldn't take my attention away from Robertson. You can't help but have concern for the trio. That's what makes for a good movie...caring about the characters. This rated R flick may not be your cup of organic tea; but it sure sustained my interest.

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wmcr13

This is a story about the high personal cost of indecision. The story unfolds slowly, but this is necessary to develop the characters fully so that we can come to understand their wants and needs firsthand. Coles (Mark Ruffalo) is an artist who can't seem to make a real decision in his life and, as a result, eventually loses the only woman he ever really loved to another, more decisive man. He learns too late that "no decision is a decision". The viewer, likewise, does not realize in the beginning that Coles' indecisiveness is going to hurt him badly, and others too, since he seems to recover well several times from his errors in judgment concerning his love life. He is a lovable young man and, Sam, the woman he meets and falls in love with, forgives and forgets his many mistakes in their relationship, until one day she has been hurt too much and leaves his life for several years. Coles goes on with his life and begins living with another woman, Claire, whom he seems to love. But when Sam returns years later and bumps into him, their love for each other reignites with its original passion, and he is faced with a crucial decision: choose Sam and break off his seemingly strong relationship with Claire, or stay with Claire and let Sam go on with her life. Again, he cannot make a decision, and so circumstances decide his fate, rather than he himself. Not only does he lose Sam and a future with her (she marries a man named Jonathon suddenly), but he also loses Claire's love and respect, since Claire figures out that he loves Sam. The viewer can feel Coles' agony when he discovers that Sam has gotten married and may even pity him, but at the same time the viewer cannot ignore that Coles chose this outcome for himself simply by not choosing any other outcome.

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Robert Clarke

A tale of 3 twenty somethings who meet at a party and end up having a threesome.two of the trilogy end up in an "open relationship", until feelings for each other get in the way and they end up drifting apart.fast forward 10 years and the trio meet up again, their lives have taken them on different routes but this meeting makes them realise that they never really moved on from each other, and this could have a devastating effect on their "new" lives unless they come to terms with their feelings and sort out some problems that first surfaced years before.Watchable relationship yarn, but the real problem is that all the characters are quite dislikable therefore its hard to feel sorry for any of them, and this reflects on the film - making it hard to enjoy and making it impossible care one bit about anyone involved in it.

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Howlin Wolf

... Well, something to point out to the director, Mr. Chick: if the character who said this was in some way a mouthpiece for your own self, then you failed miserably! (I understand more how the guy who wanted his money back felt... ) All we have here is a tedious merry-go-round of people who make 'bad decisions' left, right and centre. When you're the objective bystander and a friend comes to you after yet another foul-up, in most cases you grin and bear it because the person you're listening to shares a bond with yourself; a connection. I wouldn't even have any feeling for all this if it were real-life friends I knew intimately. It's like being the only one sober in a room full of drunks - they're all too 'self-absorbed' to take seriously... ! The vast majority of people would surely be even LESS keen if they were hearing the troubles of some isolated stranger who they're completely alienated from? That's what this film is like - a random person accosting you in the street and acting like the 'Ancient Mariner', and all the while you're desperately looking for a way out...Why should I care about the infidelities and indiscretions of these characters when absolutely no sense of 'permenance' even begins to rear its head until past the halfway mark of the film, anyway? We've watched incredulously as they've been carelessly irresponsible, but hey, now we should automatically begin to care because... what, they're older? With age does not come greater significance; the mistakes you made at 20 are just as stupid if done at 35; so don't ask me to care to any greater degree just because this time life has made it sure that you have more to lose...It could have been 'emotional' in the heady, 'youthful' stage of the film had Thea been shown to be 'serious' about her thing with Coles; but she isn't, until she suddenly turns on the taps when he admits he 'meaninglessly cheated'; and the collective seem to be angling for an outpouring of sympathy for her! The other two 'empty vessels' at this point failed to make me care much, either... So, all of a sudden my feelings are expected to 'kick in' later on, just because the players have advanced in age? I don't think so, somehow! To get me thinking about relationships; I have to be able to say: "OK, maybe I don't agree, but I can see why you might've done that". Instead, all that was presented to me was a morass of those bad decisions that I talked about... It's nothing but pure undiluted LAZINESS to work from the stereotypical template that all college students fornicate first and ask questions later; and then take the bad habits of 'coupling' that they learnt when they were in study with them into the outside world. The most critical bad decision I made was to watch this; and about the only thing it made me "think" was how long before it was over, so I could go do something else.

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