I watched this documentary after I realized that my sister had watched it. I created an account with IMDb today just so that I can add my review. I am a female who turned 30 this year and cannot say that I have felt I wanted to have a kid and I still do not. I have a common law partner of 3 years who understands I and my choices to not have a kid or marry. Having sad that, I have utmost respect for mothers as I can't imagine the level of vulnerability and strength that they feel for other humans. My personal thought on this film is that I wish there were more films as this one that focus its angle on a female - her raw feelings, thoughts, perspectives, values, strengths, struggles, fears, selfishness, ego, and most importantly her needs. Let's face it; we are not used to watching a film about a female's experience shaped by her own choices and pure needs. And this is why I value this documentary film and it is a game changer for some. Thank you for making this film!

Rather than reviewing this "amateurish home movie" of a desperate non housewife, I would like to suggest that if you are past 40 and still not married and childless, and want a child so badly, for krissakes: adopt. There are so many children who are abandoned: give them a chance rather than complain after choosing to give birth as a single mother, that it was the worst pain you ever experienced. Really, with all your research you were not expecting that?(By the way, here's a piece of advice: if you are having your first child: as soon as the contractions start: walk!! Walk in the neighborhood, or around your dining room table, or at the hospital, at a steady clip. I felt the first contractions at 2PM: I walked around the house for the next 3.5 hours: arrived at the hospital at 6PM and delivered my first child without all that suffering and screaming at 9:30PM).To "create" a baby with a guy who basically does not even want to be a parent at all, and who made this clear from the start, sounds like a lack of ethics on the part of the rather pushy "wannabe mother". And when the kid is about two, she lies in bed with him and accuses him of being "difficult". Why am I not surprised?Children need two parents, and sometimes that does not happen because of a variety of problems. But the egotism which purposely creates a one parent family, is, in my view, sick and sickening.Avoid this pathetic "oy my uterus is shutting down" piece of dreck. It is NOT a feminist manifesto; it is a major piece of egotistical whining.

If the love to which Nina Davenport refers in First Comes Love is the narcissistic love of oneself, then she has picked the perfect title for her documentary, which follows her over the two years following her decision to be a single mom Don't get me wrong. Nina packs a mean camera. Since she does her filming herself, I have to give her kudos for her control of the camera as she films family conversations, the public humiliation of her father, and her own manipulation of her friends and family into doing the work while she sits back and experiences the day. Not everyone can pull it off. She does. The problem is that she pulls it off at the expense of so many around her.There is a need for these documentaries. Many women who are not in love relationships are desperate to have children, and time is not on their side, so the odds are never in their favor. Their experiences charting that difficult course are worth noticing. But I have to agree with Nina's dad. It's not fair for her to bring a child into the world. She is not self-sufficient, so how can she possibly take on the added burden (and joy) of a child. He was right. Six months after her fabulous son was born, she was at her father's house asking why, oh why, wouldn't he support her? Her, a Harvard grad who just wants to be a filmmaker and take years, years, and more years to make films that will not pay her bills. It's that sense of entitlement that comes from having grown up entitled.Her journey is one worth recording. Her version of her journey is so reminiscent a woman looking into a pond and admiring her own image that it's hard to stomach. She should try watching her own documentary as if she were any of the other people in it – from their perspective and she might see, just for a moment or two, why those around her don't find her all that easy to be around. That said, I wish her and her son all the best. And, a piece of advise from the mother of a twenty-seven year old. Give him a bedtime. We all need one.

I've never written an IMDb review, but I was moved to do so because the only two reviews on here so far are by people who didn't see the same film as me. Nina Davenport does groundbreaking work in "First Comes Love," taking us on a deeply personal journey as she decides to make the controversial, modern decision of having an IVF baby without a husband. The film feels so intimate because it is almost entirely shot by the director and subject of the movie, Nina. Nina carries us all over New York City, where she lives, and Detroit, where she grew up, and when she wants to be on screen she just hands the camera over to whomever she's with or places it where ever she can to get a shot (including just shooting into the mirror). This technique seems to fit the subject matter and gives the film the feeling of a narrated home movie. Nina hold the camera and lets us observe her life with her. There are several compelling characters in the movie including her loving mother, less than loving father and many close friends and relatives. She takes an expectation free, observer approach to her interactions with these characters as they give their opinions, feelings, advice, and support to her decision. There are times when people say things to her that would make most feel they have just been kicked in the face, but Nina just lets it roll off her back as she asks a follow up question. Her relationship skills allows the viewer to make up their own mind about the characters in the film and provides another device for drawing us in to the story. After making the decision to have the baby, I found myself captivated by all the decisions she has to make and all the hurdles she must overcome. Nina has a beautiful baby who she lovingly captures in the movie and once he comes it is a journey in itself to watch how he reacts to his unconventional first couple years of life.I say Bravo Nina Davenport! You did it your way and this film is the thought provoking, compelling, artistic result.